Faithfulness is usually an important trait for those who believe in the divine presence. Christians know it as one of the fruits of the spirit of God. What does it mean to be faithful, though? Is it a purely spiritual experience, or does it have practical applications in personal relationships and society? While different religions may have varied answers to these questions, four factors tend to rise to the surface in discussions on faithfulness.

Loyal

One of the most common uses of the word faithful is as a synonym for fidelity in monogamous romantic relationships. While this is certainly an important attribute, many would argue that there is more to faithfulness than simply not cheating. Consistently acting in your partner's best interest, providing moral support or simply taking his or her side when faced with external conflict can all be acts of loyalty that demonstrate faithfulness to your relationship.

This aspect of faithfulness easily extends to other relationships too. Standing up for friends when you hear unflattering gossip about them is a message to everyone involved that you won't betray them. Keeping the confidence of those who have entrusted you with their secrets is also a hallmark of loyalty. Faithfulness includes any actions that lead people to regard you as a trustworthy person.

Conscientious

Another way of being faithful is by adhering to your personal values and the tenets of your belief system. This is likely what the author of Galatians meant when listing faithfulness as one of the signs that a person is walking with God. This is also one of the most controversial subjects facing believers who attempt to define exactly which behaviors constitute upholding a clear conscience. Most agree that it is not OK to lie, cheat and steal, but there are other issues that are often divisive:

• Obtaining righteousness by faith vs. acts of service
• Addressing systemic oppression vs. individual responsibility
• Helping the needy vs. practicing financial frugality

Some people of faith will argue that one side of each of these issues is the superior moral choice, while others seek to find a balance between the two. No matter what your personal views are, acting according to your conscience is a key component of being faithful.

Reliable

When church leaders try to identify faithful members of their congregation, the names that come to their minds first are probably those who are most involved or most consistent in their service to the church. Likewise, a faithful friend is one who is always there for you when you need them. Being a reliable person who fulfills your promises is important.

True

Honesty is essential for faithfulness. People who serve their churches not out of an honest desire to help but out of fearful obligation are missing the whole point. Those who claim to be loyal but end up sabotaging what is in the other person's best interest due to their own selfish agendas are not really faithful. It's one thing to honestly see both sides of an issue, but if you refuse to take a stand because you don't want to risk upsetting anyone, you may want to examine what you truly believe more deeply.

Being true also means showing up as your authentic self. This can be scary, especially for those who have been hurt by the church due to discrimination or lack of understanding, such as LGBTQIA+ people of faith. Faithfulness goes both ways, though. If it isn't safe to be your full self at your current church, it may be time to find a place where it is. 

Faithfulness may seem like a simple concept on the surface, but it can involve some intense soul-searching and difficult decisions. The good news is that ultimately your spiritual life is likely to be richer as a result.