Have you been invited to attend the baptism of a family member or close friend? You’ve done weddings, funerals, and even christenings before, but a baptism ceremony is a different thing altogether. In many Christian denominations, being baptized is a symbolic milestone in a person’s spiritual journey, much like a formal entry into the faith. This is an important event in someone’s life, and an invitation has been extended to you to witness and celebrate. Here are some things for you to consider.

Understanding the Importance

Although some Christian denominations use the words “baptism” and “christening” interchangeably, a baptism is distinct from a christening ceremony, which often is held for an infant. A person who is about to be baptized has made a personal decision to commit to being a Christian with this sacrament or ordinance. It’s okay to think of this event as being somewhat analogous to a bar mitzvah and bat mitzvah, or even a quinceanera. Whereas those milestones tend to be associated with particular ages, baptisms can be a rite of passage, irrespective of one’s age.

Responding Quickly

If you receive a formal or electronic invitation, respond as quickly as possible. There may be limited spacing at a church, especially if social distancing directives are still in place. There may be a post-baptism celebration at another venue or someone’s home. Organizers will need an accurate headcount as soon as possible. You’re considered a special person whose presence will make the occasion even more special. Be a good friend and RSVP in accordance with the host’s wishes.

Choosing Attire

The ceremony can be quite formal or casual, depending on a few factors. A baptism at a church service that is more laid back may not require invitees to dress more formally than other attendees. Some churches have baptistries or indoor pools, informing your style of dress and the weight of your apparel. An outside ceremony at a lake or other body of water may also call for a more relaxed attire, especially if the weather is very warm. When in doubt, ask the person who invited you or their guardians if you’re not entirely sure. 

Understanding Etiquette

Baptism etiquette is not very different from that of other events. There may be particular customs associated with a particular sect or denomination. Google is always available, but you should also ask the person who’s being baptized or contact the church that’s doing the baptizing if there are special considerations. Be mindful of your surroundings. Churches are places of worship, so you should be respectful of that particular venue. There’s no such thing as being fashionably late to a baptism ceremony. Make sure that you arrive at the venue early, especially if there will be reserved seating for near ones and dear ones. There may be photography or filming going on, so ask questions before you start taking photos of your own.

Giving Gifts

Baptisms don’t generally have gift-giving traditions like weddings or wedding-related events such as bridal showers or engagement parties. It’s not common for the person getting baptized to have a gift registry, but it doesn’t hurt to ask. It might be helpful to view a baptism ceremony as one might view a high school or college graduation. Consider personalized gifts that are of a spiritual nature:

• Personalized leather-bound Bible with an inscription on the cover
• Devotional or other faith-based literature
• Religious keepsake

It’s always a good idea to check with the hosts or the person being baptized to see what’s appropriate. You might consider making a donation or offering to the church or organization that’s responsible for the ceremony.

The decision to get baptized is one that is not usually arrived at lightly. If you’re ever invited to such a ceremony, recognize that you are very important to someone who wants you to be there to share this special moment. Be kind, respectful, and happy for your special friend or family member.